10 Things You Should Absolutely Stop Doing

We talk a lot about growth, but it means nothing if our behaviour doesn’t reflect it. Being a better person isn’t just about achieving more, it’s about behaving better. And that starts with letting go of outdated habits, unkind remarks, and self-sabotaging behaviour that many people still treat as normal.

From putting yourself down in the name of humour to crossing basic boundaries under the guise of curiosity or love, some of these things are so common, we forget how unhealthy and unnecessary they are. But here’s the truth: if you want to grow, feel more confident, and have real connections with people, you need to drop these habits. Outgrow the old, tired ways of shrinking yourself, mocking your life, or being emotionally tone-deaf.

It’s 2025. We can do better. And it starts here.

1. Stop Making a Joke of Your Struggles

Saying things like “I’m so poor, I’ll never afford that” or “My life’s a mess, haha!” might sound like casual humour, but it’s actually reinforcing a mindset of lack and helplessness. Earlier generations often played down their success out of fear. It came from the belief that there were only a few seats at the table, limited opportunities, and that showing abundance might attract jealousy or loss. But that scarcity mindset doesn’t hold up today. There’s more than enough room for everyone to do well. You don’t have to lie, and you don’t have to shrink. Just say, “I’m doing fine,” and mean it. Constantly ridiculing your own life or finances isn’t humility - it’s negativity. So next time you sit down with a bunch and you are not comfortable sharing about your growth, do not talk about your struggles as well.

2. Stop Badmouthing Your Past

Whether it’s an ex-partner, a former employer, or any past situation, speaking negatively about them does not add value to your present or future. Growth-focused individuals don’t dwell on resentment; they move forward. If something is worth addressing, do so directly and maturely. If not, let it go and focus on self-improvement.

3. Stop Asking Intrusive Questions - Respect Personal Boundaries

“When are you getting married?”, “When will you have a baby?” are common questions from family members. But your social circle is no less : “Where are you going for your honeymoon?”, “Where are you going for vacation this year?”. While these might seem like harmless questions, they can be invasive and uncomfortable, especially when asked by acquaintances or distant relatives. Instead, respect people’s choices and allow them to share what they are comfortable with. Respect privacy over feeding unnecessary curiosity.

4. Stop Forcing People “Out of Love” - Respect Their Choices

Generations before us may not fully understand the importance of mindful eating. They come from a time when food scarcity was a real issue, making overfeeding a gesture of love. However, times have changed. If someone is on a diet, lactose-intolerant, or simply does not want to eat, respect their choice instead of forcing them. If you see this happening, ensure educating your elders and friends with kindness rather than avoiding.

5. Stop Clinging to Constant Togetherness - Give People (and Yourself) Space to Grow

Some people equate togetherness with spending every waking moment together whether with family or friends. While bonding is important, constantly needing to be around others can be a sign of emotional insecurity. Spending time alone allows for personal growth, self-reflection, and mental clarity. If you avoid solitude, it’s not boredom you fear - it’s you fearing your own company. You’re likely running from the very feelings, fears, and truths that need your attention the most.

6. Stop Glorifying Busyness

Many of us grew up watching our parents constantly busy - running errands, cleaning, and filling every moment with activity. While productivity is great, an inability to sit still often stems from emotional restlessness. Learning to be comfortable with stillness is crucial for self-awareness, healing, and relaxation. Doing nothing at times is not a waste; it’s a necessity.

7. Stop Ignoring Your Health - You Don’t Get a Second Body

We spend the first half of our lives chasing money at the cost of our health and then the second half spending that money trying to get our health back. Unhealthy eating, lack of exercise, and ignoring one’s well-being are poor habits. Taking care of your body is an act of self-respect. Small changes like mindful eating, daily movement, and prioritising rest can make a significant difference in your overall well-being.

8. Stop Overstepping Boundaries

Boundaries are essential for healthy relationships, but many cultures, especially in Indian households, struggle with this concept. Parents and elders may feel entitled to direct every aspect of their children’s lives. While respecting family is important, it’s equally important to create personal space and autonomy. Normalising healthy boundaries with both friends and families leads to better relationships and personal freedom.

9. Stop Avoiding Self-Reflection

Many people drift through life without truly understanding who they are, what they want, or what brings them fulfilment. Take time to reflect, set goals, and evaluate your path. If you’re unsure where to start, check out my blog on how to do a life audit.

10. Stop Settling for Survival - Work Towards a Better You

Are you just getting by, or are you actively working to improve your life? If you aren’t setting goals, learning new skills, or striving for growth, you may be settling for a life without purpose. If this resonates with you, take action today. I’ve written multiple blogs on goal-setting - check out getsetgrow.club for practical steps to start your journey towards self-improvement.

We’ve all picked up habits from our families, friends, or the culture around us but growing up means questioning what actually serves us. These aren’t just random pet peeves; they’re patterns that hold people back, damage relationships, and keep us stuck in emotional immaturity. The good news? You can choose to unlearn them.

Start by becoming more aware. Check your words. Respect boundaries. Speak with intention. And most importantly, treat yourself and others with dignity. You don’t need to over-explain, over-share, or overstep to belong.

The small shifts you make in how you behave can create a ripple effect. And when you start showing up with more awareness, kindness, and authenticity — you naturally help others do the same.